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Childlessness for better and worse
Miriam, I am glad that you could find time for this discussion about advantages and drawbacks of childlessness. I realize that Moses and Aaron declined to contribute. This is a quest for you, a great female leader with intuition, feeling, and skill.
Depreciation! Of course not! The third position in Israelite politics after Moses and Aaron during exodus approximately corresponds to a third position for a female skier in the Vasa ski race of males. Billions of men lag behind.
The monotheistic religions Moses, Messiah, and Muhammad regard children as a gift of God. Thus, childlessness is described as a personal frustration (1, 2). Matters have remained stable during the 3500 years gone, since you left politics. Man and woman desire children, with few exceptions.
Involuntary childlessness is a sorrow to most persons. However, there are some gleams of hope. Sometimes, a little child comes at last. Often, a biological child arrives after an adoption or a contribution to the nursing of the child of somebody else; when Rachel had adopted the sons of Bilhah, she bore own sons.
During breast-feeding, ovulation is inhibited (3). This knowledge has been used in family planning for at least 3000 years (1, 2). It is reasonable to believe that it is the strong stimulation of the nipple, which switches off ovulation during breast-feeding.
Miriam, my working hypothesis is that a happy love life may block ovulation by nipple stimulation. A disturbance of love life - a funeral or an undesired responsibility for a door-stepped child during a few days may release ovulation and induce preganacy.
No, I have not dared to discuss these ideas with my colleges. Too many of them have requested infertility investigation during breast-feeding.
Some doctoring may be done for couples needing a child. A few colleges boast of being able to cheer on menstruation, ovulation, and pregnancy. All of us may perform a deficiency investigation for cobalamin and folate, and most essential give test treatment with oral cobalamin and oral folic acid (cf 4-7).
There are also some devices, which should not be utilized prior to pregnancies, e.g. tobacco, spirits, coils. Such external factors reduce fertility and jeopardize pgregnacy.
Love life of man has some features, which are thought to be species specific (3):
The 20-year-long contract of rearing of the human infant is thought to create the specific love life of man (3). Monogamy is a survival advantage in this setting. Sex provides an additional bond between the couple of two-sex love. Corresponding psychological bonds may be created in one-sex love.
The one-sex love was before Moses, around Moses, and after Moses a religion, a tool of power in the human flock, a method of family planning. From Moses to Muhammad, the monotheistic religions have rejected one-sex love (1,2). However, in practice, one-sex love has usually been regarded as a private affair; the practisers have not been persecuted.
From a historical point of view, the believers of one-sex love have not distinguished themselves by tolerance against dissidents. The messages from Sodom, Gibeath, and Corinth are identical. "Forbidden was chasity in the heathen city of love."
There is a sound and democratic discrimination. A Republican cannot make a career as a Democrat, and vice versa. From such considerations, it is reasonable to accept the hesitation against one-sex love by synagogues, churches, and mosques (1, 2).
Pardon, Miriam! Current debate in Sweden has been a wandering in wilderness, with plenty of fouls against freedom of thought, speech, and religion. However, the problem of childlessnes cannot be solved by adoption. Pregnant human females prefer abortion instead of adoption.
Biological childlessness may be converted to something positive. Paul the Tentmaker asserted that his non-professional activities were essential and excluded a normal family life. However, a longing is sometimes felt between the lines of his letters (cf 9, 10).
Bo Norberg
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Published September 13, 2002